A great place to begin is by becoming mindful of how often we think or pronounce, “I can’t.” You know, I can’t do this, or I can’t do that. I can’t afford that. I can’t change. I can’t believe that. I can’t go on. I can’t make it. I can’t forgive. I can’t recover. I can’t get it done. I can’t find a job. I can’t find a spouse. I can’t go back to college. I can’t pay the bills. I can’t figure this out…and the list could go on and on.
We’ve been assured that “you can’t” by so many well-intentioned people who were only seeking to protect us from hurt and/or disappointment for so many years that we have completely bought into the lie that we can’t.
Oh, But You Can–If You Believe You Can There’s a verse in the Christian Bible (Phil. 4:13) that reads, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Do you suppose it means what it says? Or is it simply a nice little, “feel-good” myth that has no bearing on fact?
Whose report will you believe? You recognize that once we ascribe to a belief, our brain is wired to search for things that will reinforce that belief and discount or rule out those things that dispute that belief. Have you ever been guilty of reciting that particular Bible verse and genuinely believing it (in your mind), and then turn right around and say, “I can’t” countless times before your head hits the pillow that same night?
Your head is believing one thing and your heart, or unconscious mind, is believing just the opposite. Let me assure you, in an engagement such as that, your heart will win every time.
Mary Kay Ash, Norman Vincent Peale, Henry Ford, et al. have all been quoted as saying, “If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t, you’re right.” Who said it first doesn’t actually matter. It’s true all the same. The proverb suggests a choice. Put differently, you are able to choose to believe you can or you are able to choose to believe you can’t.